when i criticise porn i’m not criticising or “shaming” the women who do porn.
i’m criticising the consumers and producers and people who ignore the horror stories of rape and abuse as told by the vast majority of porn actresses and only focus on the nice, pleasant, convenient…
I think the misconception a lot of anti-porn people have is what the end game is for pro porn feminists. I, and most feminists I know, are advocates for more regulation, more diverse content, erasing the intense misogyny within many (almost certainly most) porn films, more money going toward the performers, more diverse producers, directors, writers, etc.
The disagreement seems to be that porn is inherently misogynistic. The existence of the queer/feminist porn referenced above is proof that porn doesn’t have to be the way it is now, and the way it has been historically. Most media is pretty misogynistic, but the idea that someone would be anti-movies, or anti-video games, and so forth because the overwhelming majority of the ones that currently exist are very sexist seems silly.
All (or at least in my anecdotal experience most) feminists are for changing porn and making erotica that doesn’t regress society. But it’s tough to see a case where the medium should be blamed for those that abuse it, at least enough to warrant an entire sector of feminist to be “anti-porn”.